Ghosting
Contact that stops with no explanation. Bondary counts it as ghosting once the silence has lasted two weeks.
What it looks like
- A conversation that ends mid-plan and never resumes.
- Read receipts, and activity everywhere else.
- A reply you drafted four times and never sent, because the last one is still unanswered.
Why it is easy to miss
You keep the door open and call it patience. There is no event to react to, only an absence, and absences are easy to explain on his behalf.
What it is not
A slow texter who answers. Slow is a style. Gone is the pattern.
What to do
- Decide your own line in advance, before the silence tests it.
- Log the date of the last real contact, so the length of the silence is a fact instead of a feeling.
- Spend the energy you would have spent on the draft reply on someone who answers.
How Bondary reads it
She notes the date of the last contact. When the silence crosses her threshold she names it, with the dates, and the Commitment dimension stops giving credit for a plan that no longer exists. She also logs the day you decide, because that is a pattern worth keeping too.
She never tells you to leave. She shows you the pattern and the entries it came from, and the decision stays yours.
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