Hot and cold
Intense warmth alternating with cold distance, over and over, so you are either basking or waiting.
What it looks like
- A perfect weekend, then three days of one-word replies.
- Warmth that returns right when you were about to let go.
- Every time you adjust to the distance, the closeness comes back and resets you.
Why it is easy to miss
The warm phases are real, so you wait through the cold ones for them. The cycle trains you to see the cold as the exception, even when it takes up most of the calendar.
What it is not
A person having a hard week who tells you it is a hard week. Distance with an explanation is a week. Distance with no explanation and a reliable return is the pattern.
What to do
- Look at the whole timeline, not the last good day.
- Notice what you do during the cold phases, and whether you like who that is.
- Decide what consistency would look like for you, then compare the record to it.
How Bondary reads it
The weekly timeline makes the cycle visible on one screen. When his behavior reverses against an established baseline, her read says so, with the weeks it came from, instead of treating the warm phase as news.
She never tells you to leave. She shows you the pattern and the entries it came from, and the decision stays yours.
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